Just a thought

i can not tolerate people who cheat.. But humanly speakin i sometimes think white lie is needed. But not always. I mean, when u think u can speak the truth, just spill it. Dont excuse your forgetfulness to save yourself out of troubles.. Then that will become an absolute lie..
And when you quarrel, dont always think that your partner is afraid that you're cheating.. Sometimes all they want is just purely your explainations on related matters and them being insecured and paranoid that youre being dishonest (note this down, honesty is one of the ingredients needed in love) so logically, dishonesty = less lovesparks = break up.
So you dont expect your partner to 'chill' when this happens. Perhaps what u must do is to convince them that u love em.. Its a very 'Simple' solution yet due to stubborness and the desire to always be the victor, aint no all people wise enough can do this.